Parents Guide to Teen Dating
By
User:Kristenmollica @timeAndDate(1285950814)
You've probably been dreading this day for quite some time, but unfortunately, this is one conversation you can't avoid. The teenage hormones are brewing and your son or daughter is ready to venture out into the world of dating. Although this can be a very stressful time for you as a parent, it's important that you talk to your kids and set up rules and expectations for them.
The Talk
You might be fortunate enough for your child to address the topic of dating, but most likely you will have to bring up this conversation. If you're unsure of how to approach your teen, try educating yourself by reading a parenting book such as
Preparing Your Child for Dating by Bob Barnes. Here are some '''tips''':
* If you think your child is gay or he has come out to you, this can potentially make things even more difficult. The same rules still apply but you need to be even '''more supportive'''.
** This is a sensitive topic and I can't tell you what to think or believe. I can only ask that you continue to show your son or daughter the love, respect, and support he or she needs. It's hard enough being a teenager, don't make it worse by alienating your kids.
** There are books that deal with this topic, such as ''
GLBT Teens and Society''.
** You might want to send your child over to
TheGayYouthCorner.com where he or she can interact with other gay, lesbian, and bisexual teens and seek advice.
What Not to Do
Setting the Rules
The Birds and the Bees
If you already thought communicating with your teen about dating was awkward, just wait until you have the sex talk: the one unavoidable situation that every mom or dad truly despises. As a parent, this is one of the most important discussions you will ever have with your teen.
Books for Teens
Before purchasing any of these books, I recommend that you read them so you can decide if they're appropriate for your child.
Preventing Abusive Relationships
Like most parents, until I did some research, I was actually unaware of the high amount of abusive relationships that occur between teens. You'll find that if you search online for books on teen parenting, the majority of results are really about abusive relationships, so let's talk about them.
* What is an abusive relationship?
** An abusive relationship is '''not''' just about physical injury. It also includes emotional abuse, threats, insults, isolation, name-calling, and controlling behavior.
* How can I discuss this with my kids?
** Well, you might not want to overload them with tons of "talks" all at once. Find some downtime to approach them about the subject ''before'' they start dating or if you suspect abuse.
* Ask your teen about gender roles.
** Some may have the notion that men are dominant and women are supposed to follow. Make sure they know that a relationship consists of '''mutual respect''' and no one person should be in control.
* Be '''observant'''.
** Look for '''warning signs''': if he or she has a loss of interest in activities, stops seeing friends or family, or has unexplained injuries. You should also be concerned if your teen's significant other needs to constantly know of your child's whereabouts, or often loses his or her temper.
* To learn more about abuse or if you are in need of help, go to
NationalDomesticViolenceHotline.com.
Related Guides
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How to Deal with a Confusing Relationship
*
Coping with a Breakup
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Coping with Empty Nest Syndrome
*
Healthy Lifestyle
*
Divorce Survival Guide
