How to Deal with a Confusing Relationship
By
User:EstherT @timeAndDate(1285365853)
A relationship rests on strangers understanding one another. They must ''learn ''from one another, but to be honest, not everyone is meant to be a teacher. Most people describe their relationships as confusing and don't know how to see the light. Here are our efforts to help the unfortunate "few" (AKA most of us), those who always seem to be able to help their best friends with their relationship problems, yet for some reason can't seem to help themselves with Mr./Ms. Special.
The following headings provide you with a brief outline of what you and your significant other might be going through. Please take note that this is a very general sketch. Your relationship could be (and probably is) completely different, so please, don't read the suggestions as if they were the Ten Commandments! The best way to deal with a confusing relationship is to:
# Reflect if it ''really is'' confusing, or if you're just making it confusing by playing dramatic mind games with yourself (very often the case),
# If you do come to the conclusion that the relationship is completely disoriented, then force yourself to '''''communicate, communicate, communicate'''''.
(S)he Loves Me, (S)he Loves Me Not?
Stop trying to make
For the Ladies
For the Lads
This will probably be the least confusing part of a relationship, considering you two aren't really 'official' yet, so take charge and make sure that you '''''communicate '''''how you feel.
HotCold
The two of you decided a while ago, or a bit ago, to come out as a couple, but you're already running into some problems. Why is she not talking to me today? Why didn't he text me back? She's all over me one second, catering to me and making me feel like the best, and then the next thing I know we're fighting about why I didn't call her back. He sends me flowers everyday of the week, and then I don't hear from him all weekend. What am I supposed to think? This is so confusing!
Sound familiar? Sometimes relationships are confusing because emotions get the better of us, and we have a hard time communicating our worries and annoyances. Sometimes it's pride, embarrassment, neglect, or just fear. Telling your significant other how you feel about being with him or heris necessary and essential to dealing with these issues. Once you figure him or her out, you'll know exactly how to cheer up your "cold" partner.
Take A Day Off Work
Surprise your honey by sacrificing a bit of your workday. Keep in mind that stress always affects your emotions, often even exaggerates them. We know you also have a lot of stress, but it might be a good idea to take the time to make Mr./Ms. Special feel good about your relationship. Here are some ideas of what you can do.
Remember to turn off your cell. No answering business calls, texts, emails, tweets, Facebook posts, and so on when you're spending time with your man or lady.
The Cheesy Stuff
Spontaneous Outing
What You Both Like
It's a good idea to remember why the two of you are together. Doing something you both enjoy is a good way of reminding your special someone why you're with him/her and no one else. What's even better is if you take it upon yourself to do something you know your SO likes to do.
* Jogging
** What You'll Need: Tennis Shoes + Work Out Backpack + Water Bottle + Each Other
* BBQ
** What You'll Need:
BBQ Accessories + Each Other
* Clubbing
** What You'll Need: Sexy Outfit
Men +
Flask (optional) + Each Other
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Movie Night
** What You'll Need:
Popcorn +
Blankets + Each Other
* Adventures
** What You'll Need:
Camera + Each Other
Post-Breakup Tension
Relationships could still be confusing even if your Facebook status no longer claims you two are officially "in a relationship" any more. What if you made a mistake? What do you do if you want your boyfriend or girlfriend back? How do you deal with his/her friends? How do you confront him/her about moving on? Those are only some of the questions you might ask yourself after you've had a fallbreakup situations:
You Want Them Back
They dumped you, or you dumped them. No matter the situation, you ''really ''miss him/her. How do you win your love back? Doing absolutely everything and anything you know would make him or her happy without showing that you're desperate.
If you're the dumper, you've got to confess your mistake in person, and list them every reason you two deserve to be together. You might need a
handkerchief might come handy if you start sweating nervously.
If you're the dumpee, it's critical you don't come off as obsessive. You don't want them to have a
Coping with a Breakup guide for more suggestions.
Me, Myself, and I
If a relationship has had its last breath, it's time to put it to rest. It's not confusing anymore, it's over. Of course, give yourself the time you need to comfort yourself, but remember to go out. Don't sleep your hurt away. Go out with friends. Push yourself to meet people, and work on that ego of yours! Some ways to get an easy self-esteem boost are featured in several of our buying guides. Browse through the ones appropriate to your circumstance and take the best out of them:
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